Vision of Marriage

Psalm 37:4
Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.

Genesis 2:18

¹⁸ And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” ¹⁹ Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. ²⁰ So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

Genesis 2:21

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. ²¹ So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. ²² Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

²³ The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,'for she was taken out of man."

Joel 2:28
[ God’s Spirit Poured Out ] “ And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions.

God loves us beyond all that we can imagine or contain. He wants to complete His will for our lives. If we want to live a fulfilled life in His will, we should be asking what that will is daily. That is the crux of the matter concerning marriage. Is it God’s desire and plan for us? God always puts a desire in our hearts where His plan is concerned. If the desire is present and true, then pray and expect. Check your heart motive and pray that he reveals His will in your life.

God gives visions to us all, in order to complete His will for our lives. When He gives us a vision, he also plants in our hearts seed (or desire) to complete the work, otherwise we would not buy into the vision and we would tarry instead of being compelled to pray and obey. God woos us by placing desire in our hearts along with the vision. This being the nature of God, why would we doubt that when we have the desire of marriage in our lives, He has placed it there?

If it is a Godly desire that He has planted it in our hearts, then He expects us to pray and obey and look for Him to move in our lives concerning this vision and dream. I believe that we should not ignore this Godly desire, thinking that we don’t deserve nor should expect this blessing in our lives. We should pray it to fruition faithfully, as we would any vision from God. God will not force His good will on us. He will give us vision and desire and faith, and then we must do our part by praying, obeying and waiting.

What we need to check our hearts for is “Is this God’s desire for my life”? Has he placed the desire in my heart to be married, or have I substituted my need for an intimate relationship with God with that of man, or woman as it were?

If you let God search out the corners of your heart for woundedness and lack, and come up clean in this area of intimate healthy relationship with your Father in heaven, then you should trust the vision. If you have woundedness in this area, then you should be on your knees, submitting your heart to God, and letting Him heal and redeem your past. Otherwise you are wasting time that God can use to further His loving will in your life.

If He does not put the desire in our hearts; if we do not know that desire, then either it is not the right time to devote to prayer regarding marriage, or it is not His will altogether. If it is not His will and we are healthy functioning Christians, then we will not be bothered or worried about the subject.

Now, lets consider the character of God concerning putting two people together. Does God work in specific ways? If he designed marriage as a testament of Jesus' love of the church, then yes He does work specifically in our lives concerning delivering a mate. Jesus woos the lost to salvation, just as the groom woos the bride to marriage. In both equations, God is sovereign in the plan. God will orchestrate his will when we let him.

Look at Adam before the blessing (gift) of Eve. God said aloud to Adam that it was not good for him to be alone. God created many creatures to show Adam what didn't fit, then He caused Adam to sleep and removed a rib from him. I find myself asking if Adam felt the loss when he awoke. I think he did. Then God created Eve from Adam's flesh and returned his flesh to him in the form of woman. Returned her to him! God presented Eve to Adam, and Adam recognized her as flesh of his flesh. I believe that the man with a vision of marriage will recognize the flesh of his flesh when God presents her to him.

This is freedom for all who are anxious about what they should be doing concerning a mate. God will present man with his mate and man will recognize the blessing. This spiritual principal should put women at ease and give freedom that they don't have to compel man in any way. Just receive the freedom that God wants you to live in. He will do the work, and we should obey His loving command to seek first the kingdom, and all things will be added. His children don't need to make anything happen by their own plan. God is very capable of working out His will, and ours is only to obey. Do we trust Him? We must if we want His best for our lives.